Many people want their life to change for the better, but how many actually do it?
So often we make excuses for putting up with some of the things in our life.
Change is an inside job; most of the things that hold us back are in our head.
We can’t always change the things that happen to us, but, we can always change the way we view them.
We have two choices we can view them negatively or we can view them positively, it is always up to us.
We must decide what we really want and not what we kind of want.
We need to put our life problems into perspective. Is it serious or trivial? Think about it, is this problem something I’ll worry about in a year’s time?
If we find ourselves saying that we can’t do something, even though we say we want that thing to happen.
We need to think, are we powerless to do it! Is it that we really don’t want to, or perhaps we just can’t be bothered to put in the effort to do it.
Many people when asked what they want out of life find it hard to tell someone else what they really want. Their fear of being ridiculed, or thought of as being selfish or laughed at, tends to hold them back.
We should not let others influence us after all, what others think about what we want and need in our life, is none of our business.
Sadly we can also be held back by our own thoughts; over thinking, fear of failure or the fear of being judged by others.
I have found that writing these thoughts down and analysing each one, and change them into positive thoughts. Helps me to move forward towards what I really want in my life.
Reframing our lives is not to achieve for others, but to enhance our own lives. It requires seeing our lives in new way, to take advantage of the things in our life.
Reframing is to redefine problems as a challenge. When we think of a problem it sits heavily with us, where as a challenge gives us an adrenaline rush and tends to move us forward.
It is then that we discover within us all the resources and drive we need to achieve a better life.
We then open our minds to opportunities and look at the bigger picture.
It might not be easy, and it might not happen in a set time, but if you are consistent it will happen.
I am reminded of John D. Rockefeller who came from a poor family; his determination at the age of nineteen to improve his life and to help others on the way. It was a challenge that he took upon himself.
He reframed his life to become one of the richest men, who gave millions to charity.
‘Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.’ J.D. Rockefeller.
Replacing energy depleting thoughts, with responsible challenges, will move us forward to a better life.
Let us take up the challenge and reframe our lives to be that special person that dwells within us and let us inspire others to do the same.